Potential of Marriage
So, I want to be very open and honest about my feelings for
this week’s topic. In class we discussed sexual intimacy. Well, more on martial
intimacy but I’ll get to that later.
If I am being completely honest with myself, I don’t think I
every really formally learned about sex. I would be able to gather information
or discern from different contexts, but it seemed to generally come from the
media.
I was taught that sexual intimacy is reserved for a man and
woman who were lawfully and legally married. I also knew that it was a very
sacred thing, that it is a Godly power. So therefore, I knew how important it
was to live a virtuous and chaste life. I knew that I wanted to save my self for
marriage and that was very important to me.
However, after this lesson I firmly believe that the media
has distorted my views and thoughts on sex. Which I knew before this week’s
lesson, the adversary has worked very hard to make this a weapon of evil. Which
truly terrified me. As excited as I was to share this with my husband, and to
become closer and one with each other I was so scared.
But I couldn’t really figure out why. Because deep down I
knew that this comes from God. That He has given us the ability to participate
in creation. It can be a beautiful and sacred experience. So why was I so
terrified?
I don’t’ think it really had to do with sexual intimacy at
all. I mean it was something new and different and that in of itself can be a
little scary. But I feel like I was more scared to completely give myself to
another person.
In a scripture from The Old Testament in Genesis chapter 2
in verses 18 it says, “And the Lord God said, it is not good that man should be
a lone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Then Later in verse 24 it says, “Therefore
shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and
they shall be one flesh.” The idea of abandoning my role as a child terrified
me. And I don’t mean that I wanted to live with my parents forever or live like
I am 11. I mean abandoning the idea that I need to cleave to my husband. That I
had the responsibility to not rely on my parents like I once did.
In Websters dictionary it defines cleave as “to adhere
firmly and closely or loyally and unwaveringly.” As much as I desired to cleave
to my husband that idea scared me, and I think because it made me so vulnerable.
Which again I think came because of a worldly influence.
Because someone can love and admire you one day and be gone in the next. Or
maybe it was only physical or because it was convenient. But that didn’t line up
with the believes and knowledge I had about how God views marriage.
Because I know that life’s greatest joys are found in the
family. I know that strong relationships require effort and discipline. I know that
when a marriage is pure, the husband and wife are equals where neither one
dominates over the other. We are a “help meet” for one another.
In the Bible dictionary it teaches that the word meet means,
“fitting, proper, qualified, and suitable.” And I think that is beautiful. For me I
learned this week that marital intimacy is more than just sexual. But it is
being qualified to help one another. That in a marriage you are properly fitted
and suitable to support and assist one another.
It is such a beautiful blessing we are able to be apart of.
I am grateful that I have a loving husband that I can cleave unto. That I can
rely and unwaveringly turn to for anything. A quote I heard in class was along
the lines of “this is the man that I promised God that will love, support, and
help through all of his challenges.” And that I feel can sum up what marital
intimacy can become. A two way street of love, support, help and growth
together as one.
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